Navigating Financial Etiquette: Modern New England Weddings

financial-etiquetteOnce upon a time when a boy and girl would get married the girl’s parents would pay for the wedding. It was already decided. There was no debate. However, things are anything but traditional in this modern world and there are more cases than not when someone else pays for the costs associated with the nuptials, post-wedding party ideas and even the rental of the wedding reception hall in Massachusetts. Rising costs, the economic downfall, couples waiting until their late 20s, 30s and even 40s to say, “I do” are just some of the reasons why the “rule” of the bride’s parents paying for the wedding has been all but forgotten for many couples in the United States today.

However, for those who are looking for a guide on who can and should take responsibility for expenses like paying for the best wedding photos, caterer, entertainment or even choosing a reception hall for the event, etiquette can still be adhered to so everyone will feel comfortable with the decision. It is important to include family in this opportunity to support the marriage, however it is also important to make sure that no one feels slighted or left out. The rest of this article will focus on a list of traditional, modern and “outside the box” thinking on who pays for everything from the church to the wedding reception hall in Massachusetts based on the particular situation or needs of the couple.

Tradition Says…
When we say “tradition,” we mean the way it has been for generations in this country. While not hard and fast rules by any means, the list below reflects the persons responsible for paying for certain aspects of the wedding and post-wedding party ideas.

The costs paid for by the family of the bride include:

  • ceremony costs – decorations, officiate, location, etc.
  • reception costs – decorations, choosing a reception hall, rental fees, entertainment, music, food, favors, etc.
  • floral costs – for the ceremony, bridal party and reception
  • bridal costs – including the wedding dress, veil, shoes and all accessories, hair and makeup
  • stationary costs – announcements, invitations, programs and postage
  • photography costs – hire a pro for best wedding photos, photo booth for guests, etc.
  • transportation – limo or hired car for bride, groom and wedding party
  • personal expenses – wedding attire, travel costs

The costs paid for by the family of the groom include:

  • rehearsal costs – invitations, dinner, decorations, entertainment and rental fees
  • personal expenses – wedding attire, travel costs, wedding gift

The costs paid for by the bride include:

  • gifts – for the groom and the bridal attendants in the wedding party
  • beauty – any extra treatments beyond hair and makeup

The costs paid for by the groom include:

  • the wedding rings
  • the marriage license
  • the honeymoon
  • a wedding gift for the bride
  • flowers – the bride’s bouquet and corsages for mothers and grandmothers, boutonnieres for the men in the wedding party
  • gifts for the groomsmen in the wedding party

When Modern Trends Trump Tradition
There are just some situations where the traditional rules of who pays for what no longer apply. Not every family can afford a large wedding in this day and age. There are also some dynamics in the relationship that would cause changes in the way that costs are distributed throughout the families.

  • Older Couple – If the bride and groom are older, they will usually pay for their own wedding or allow family members to “help out” with individual costs for post-wedding party ideas, getting a wedding cake or renting a wedding reception hall in Massachusetts.
  • Second Wedding – If this is the bride’s or grooms second, third or whatever multiple marriage, the costs for the wedding and choosing a reception hall should not be expected to be paid for by the families.
  • Financial Issues – If the family of the bride or the groom are not financially able to help out with the wedding, often the bride and groom will create a budget and pay for much of the event themselves, take out a loan or even switch the roles of the bride’s family and groom’s family according to who can afford to pay for what.
  • Family Issues – In some situations, one or both of the families may not approve of the wedding. In this case, the bride and groom will take over costs for everything from the ceremony to hiring a photographer for the best wedding photos to the reception and other post-wedding party ideas.

Securing a Wedding Reception Hall in Massachusetts
It is important to nail down the date for your special day and beginning making arrangements for post-wedding party ideas as soon as possible. Choosing a reception hall for a wedding in the New England area is easy when you visit The Crystal Room in Milford, MA. Conveniently located for guests coming from all over the northeastern region, this venue is located just a minute off the I-495, making it easy for guests from Cape Cod, Boston, Providence and just about anywhere in the area to attend.

Contact The Crystal Room by calling 508-478-7800 to schedule a walk-through of the facility or to find out about our scheduled open house dates. Our event professionals can help you to coordinate your entire event, assisting with minute details, helping with scheduling of photographers, vendors, menus, activities and more. We take care of the details so you can relax and enjoy your own party at our beautifully designed wedding reception hall in Massachusetts. Create your own custom wedding reception at The Crystal Room in Milford.